Sometime ago I read an interesting book called The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. In this article, I present my learning from this highly acclaimed book. I however do want to make it clear that the content here represents my views on the subject and does not necessarily fully reflect the research findings of the illustrious author of the book.

We are dictated by our habits. Our habits are what we are. Our identity is linked to our habits. If you practice music every day then people will identify you as a musician. If you play chess passionately then your identity will be of a chess player.  If you are going to the mosque five times a day then you will be identified as a religious person. People identify you with what you are seen doing habitually.

It is important that we first clarify in our own mind, who we are. What identity would you like to have? What are you passionate about doing? And once this identity with which you are happy is discovered, you can wholeheartedly pursue that identity (habit) for greater success and fulfillment.

Based on Charles Duhigg’s work, habits are a result of four simple steps.

  1. Cue 2. Craving. 3. Response. 4. Reward. This four step pattern is the backbone of every habit and our brain runs through these steps in the same sequence every time.

The first step is the cue. The cue triggers the brain to initiate a behaviour. This cue reminds our brain of the reward at the end of the cycle. You are passing by a restaurant (cue) and your brain tells you of the reward; (a delicious biryani). This creates the craving.

Craving is the motivational force behind every habit. Without some level of desire or craving, we have no reason to act. So now you are craving that delicious biryani which leads you to the third step- response.

Your response is the actual habit you perform. Here your response would be to enter the restaurant and devour the biryani and finally this response delivers the result which in this instance would be your gastronomic delight.

There is however a caveat. Whether you respond or not depends on how motivated you are and how much constraint there is associated with your response. For example, if you have already had lunch then there is not enough of a motivation for you to have the biryani or if you are not carrying enough money in your pocket then there is a strong constraint for you to enter the restaurant.

The reward is the end goal of every habit. The cue is about thinking of the reward; the craving is about desiring the reward; the response is about acting to get the reward.

If the reward is satisfying then the cycle keeps repeating itself and this is a habit. Every time you pass by that restaurant, you go in and gratify your culinary yearning. (Assuming you have the hunger and the money). If however the reward is not satisfying, you break away from the habit. Say you go into the same restaurant and the chef has changed and the new chef’s cooking is not to your taste. After a few disappointing visits to the restaurant, your habit of eating biryani at that restaurant will be broken.

Good habits can be formed by satisfying rewards. A survey has shown that 92 percent of people said that they habitually exercised because it made them “feel good”- they grew to expect and crave the endorphins and other neurochemicals a workout provided. Exercising regularly also gives these people an identity of a “fit person”. This identity is what greatly motivates them to continue their regular workout routine. Research has also shown that people are far more likely to develop a good habit if it is based on an identity rather than an outcome. So in this case, while the person may have taken up exercising with the objective of losing weight, the probability of the workout becoming a habit is much more likely if the said person identifies himself/herself as someone who is fit rather than if he/she continued to exercise with the objective of losing weight. This is logical because if exercising does not give the expected weight loss then there would be no reason to continue exercising even though it is good for health. Conversely, if the expected weight loss is achieved then the purpose has been served and therefore no point in continuing to exercise.

Whether it is a drug addiction or gambling obsession, the fact is that bad habits do provide some type of relief. Therefore it is very difficult to eliminate them. The best way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one and create an identity for yourself which resonates with the good habit. For example, if you want to quit smoking just a commitment to not smoke may not be enough; especially during high stress moments when the craving is maximum. Replacing the habit of smoking with a good habit like a cardio workout or yoga pranayama (breathing exercise) is likely to be more effective. As mentioned earlier, your identity is also linked to your habit. Identify yourself as a non smoker. If someone offers you a cigarette, instead of saying “I am trying to quit smoking” say “I don’t smoke”. Your identity of a health buff will also prevent you from smoking.

Habits are the small decisions we make and the actions we perform every day. A Duke University research says that our habits account for almost half of our every day behaviours. Our life is essentially dictated by our habits. How healthy or unhealthy we are. How happy or unhappy we are. How successful or unsuccessful we are. In one way or another, our habits play a big role in all of these matters.

If our habits determine who we are then our entire life’s pursuit should be to make constant changes to our habits. It is not about a single earth shaking life defining habit; it is  about a life long pursuit of strengthening good habits through regular practice and eliminating bad habits by replacing them with good habits.

Drawing a parable from the ancient Greek sorites paradox, does a single 5 taka coin make a person rich? Would ten such coins make the person rich? But what if you add another and another and another? You have to admit that at some point the said person does become rich. The paradox is in establishing at what point does the person become rich? Can one tiny change of habit transform your life? It is unlikely. But what if you made another? And another? And another? At some point your life would be transformed and you too may end up mulling over another sorites paradox of when it happened.

“Forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not.” Octavia Butler


Comments (9)
  • Very eloquently put! Thoroughly enjoyed reading.

    Warm regards,
    Charles Quiah
    Advocate, Supreme Court of Bangladesh
    Hackney, London.

  • Good Morning!

    Well written sir, Cue, Crave, Response, and Reward cycle really works in the real world. Live life on the edges, habits are yours baseline.

    With regards,
    S. Abu Naser

  • Very good framework on Habit. Cues. Craving. Response. Reward.

    You write well sir.

  • Another well-written article exposing subtleties behind our everyday actions. The distinction between identity and outcome is an interesting one. What defines us? Is it our work? Our clothes and food? Our children and how we raise them? How we treat others? Implicit in the essay is the overarching role of habits in all of these spheres. The article provides a good mix of food for thought along with research findings. Well done.

  • We will be successful if we can change our habits. With the same habits, we can not expect different results. But the most difficult part is to change the Habits. Arshi Haider sir guided some process to change habits like change bad habits into good habits.

    Thank you very much sir for another very useful content

  • ….”Our life is essentially dictated by our habits….”. That is the essence. Well written @Arshi Haider.

  • As brilliant as your golfing skill.
    Thanks brother for including me in this group.

  • The article is a wonderful manifestation of good and bad Habits that we practice in our routine behavior. It’s very compassionate for all of us acquired both good and bad Habits reflected in our everyday conduct. For people with good habits the author encourage them to strengthen their good practices and for individuals possess bad lifestyles the author suggests them to shun the bad habits and inculcate good manners.

    Habits- after the release of 3- articles of the author in a series, e.g. Medicine, Diet and Exercise and Healthy Living this issue is extra ordinarily important and complimentary to the previous publications. Good Habits can eliminate the need for taking lasting medication, helps take balanced food and inspires developing a Habit of doing regular effective exercise.

    I heard a lot from our veterans a maxim that ‘Man is a Slave of Habits/ মানুষ অভ্যাসের দাস’. In this article the author has profusely deliberated on Habits that dictate our conducts. As we try to avoid bad habits in us and cultivate good habits, the article made me obligated to reevaluate my habits in order to nourish the good ones and eliminate the bad practices. Good Habits lead us live a healthy life, make us determined and enable us develop a spirited lifestyle.

  • Nicely explained sir! Worth sharing!

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